THE RIGHT TIME TO TELL YOUR KIDS ABOUT S_X

Although that I’m still single (repeated: s-i-n-g-l-e.. God, that word recently always comes to my mind and begin to familiar with myself ;P), it doesn’t mean that I don’t have any family man conversations. Since most of my friends in my audit team have their own family (wife/husband and kids), so I feel that I’ve got a lot of informations about the knowledge regarding the family business..

Well, someone should need to be tutored before they enter the battle field, right? ;P

So one of the things that really made Mr. B (one of my supervisor) worried that his kid (a boy in the age of 15, who studies in the 1st year of high school) was detected to have.. a girl friend. Actually that was a very & really normal thing. But, Mr. B was afraid that his boy will do something dangerous.. you know.. regarding s_x’s matter. That’s why he advised his kid about that, “Hey, please becareful, do you understand that should you try to explore ‘that thing’ with her it will be a dangerous step of your life!” And you know what his kid said? “Aahh, relax Sir. I know what I’m doing. I’m not a kid anymore. I’ll be careful with that. I have known about s_x! Better than you thought!”

It left kind of shocked feeling to Mr. B, for accepting that his kid has grown up so fast. And then, suddenly, we all went to our own experience in the past. Right now we are in the age of 30s & 40s, and we wondered of how we knew the information about s_x for the 1st time. Mr. B said that he knew about it in the age of 13, from his friend. And I confirmed that I had that experience too. I knew from my friend when I was 11 years old. We were in elementary school, we were gossiping about our teacher who at last being pregnant after her marriage of 5 years. It was kind of horror feeling to me to accept the reality that baby was made (like my friend said, connecting men's 'thing' with women's 'thing', you know.. I think I shouldn't be obvious to tell exactly what the 'thing' is..), not just given incidentally from God!

And at that time suddenly I felt connected with those kissing, huggings, and some kind of romantic activities between men and women, which I’ve seen from television or movies, and of course made them felt panick and tried to cover my eyes with their hands in order not to see that. My friend named the terms for such activity as f_ck_ng! He also emphasized that no baby will be delivered in the world without those f_ck_ng activities!

Of course it was too young for us to understand about surrogate mothers and so on.. ;P

S_x education was given to us in elementary school and junior high. But, so far, we felt that they didn’t give enough information. So far, we just got it from ourself curiousity. Therefore, to avoid some misunderstandings among their kids, my friends and supervisor discussed the matters about when the right time for us to tell our kid about s_x. Mr. B said that he prepared to talk about it as soon as his boy (he has 2nd son, who is in the age of 12) steps his age into 14. Mr. I, who has a son of 11 years old agreed with that, then he also suggested that the study is introduced by inviting kid to take a bath with their parents (e.g. son with dad, and daughter with mom). Also in that activity, mom and dad each give explanation about s_xual organ, and about the change of it when we are grown up..

In this section, Mrs. L gave a laugh a little, she said, “You know what? My husband didn’t want to do that anymore.” It left my curiousity to ask further, why? “Because, after doing that activity with our son, the next morning when we were having a breakfast together, also with the nanny, our son told the nanny in front of my husband about that experience. Also, he told his nanny about how big and hairy his daddy’s 'thing' was! Of course it left an awkward situation between the nanny, my husband and I!” And we all bursted our tears for laughing about it..

So, it doesn’t matter about your decision in teaching your little kids about s_x, as long as you give a note to them not to spread your teaching matters about it to CNN, VOA or any other mass media as well.. ;P